Love Conditional ? Unconditional?

When I started blogging my first post was on Unconditional Love. The Post is given below in Italics.

"Right from the childhood have repeatedly heard a word called "unconditional love". Have been preached that only the unconditional love is the purest form of love and have believed it till some time back. But if one closely inspects the defnition of unconditional love what he would understand is that it implies loving an entity for absolutely no reason. I have taken it for granted and spent all my life till date loving people for no reason. Have always had this nagging emotion that why should i love this person, he has got nothing to offer me in return, that thought always used to make me feel uncomfortable and at times even guilty. But tell me some thing what would make u more happy, people loving you for your virtues(assuming u have got some) or people loving you for the nothing u have become. If you would appreciate for being loved for what you have got then why does this phrase "unconditional love" bores any meaning in your lives, I shall say love the person for what he is, what he can offer u and what u gain by interacting with him. I refuse to accept "unconditional love" from any body and i refuse to give it to any body. If my virtues permit u to love me and if u love me for that i would appreciate it, i shall not appreciate any form of love or give any form of love that is irrational and unconditional. "

Yesterday I was having a conversation with one of my best friends on this topic. Thankfully he also lives by the same code as I do. All the proponents of Unconditional Love out there I would Like to ask you one question , If at all Love were unconditional how come you say you love a few and you hate a few, shouldn u be able to love every body and every thing irrespective of what they are? (Don tell me actually you do love everyone and everything) . If U love somebody then it implies that you love him for certain things (or Virtues) and if U hate some one U hate him because you don like the way he is. Then how can Love be unconditional at all? Have seen people staring at me when I say that "I love a person because he has got something to offer me and I would stop loving that person when he has lost his ability to offer me the very something which was the basis of my love. " People expect me to love them no matter what they have become, Once I start loving a person, I am expected to love him forever no matter what he does. There is friend of mine who proudly proclaims that if she loves a person and later even if the person rapes another woman or if he commits a murder or if he becomes a drug addict she would still love him because her love for him is unconditional and true. I resent the very idea of unconditional love it doesn make much sense to me. In my view love has to be earned not given on charity.

There will be more posts in the future on this topic. All the view points are welcome. What I have expressed here are purely my views.